Does you accent and dialect really matter?

It is very often that people will change their accent or dialect when they talk, whether it be to fit in or to stand out.

Travelling has become a more frequent thing to do, this increase has meant that people with different dialects mix. The mix of different dialects allows people to pick up words which they would not normally use. The more people the more language is swapping and people are using dialect from other regions, this is causing dialect levelling, the swapping of dialects could create dialects to become more similar. We are influenced in many different ways to use other regional dialects and accents. These influences come from books, TV, music, films, etc... This creates a wider range of accents and dialects mixing because these different media's do not require you to leave your region or even house. You get the experience of hearing multiple dialects within TV shows or music. 

How people would like to be perceived has a big effect on how they talk. People are more likely to converge their language to those around them so they are not different, they would like to fit in. Although this may not seem true, it is actually a very frequent thing. People may also diverge their language to make as different from others as they can, like in Martha's Vineyard study (by Labov), this showed that the locals strengthened their pronunciations to make themselves an independent social group that are superior to the tourists. This suggests that people in Martha's Vineyard see that them changing their language is making their status higher than the tourists, so they are seen as more superior. Talking in the same way as those close to you could allow you to feel closer to them and them to accept you more.  There was a study done in 1987 in Belfast, it found that men lived in a much more close-knit friendship than women which showed that they spoke the same way within the group (linguistically homogenous) and due to peer pressure used more non-standard English when talking.  

It is common for people to judge a person on their accent or dialect. Should your accent matter? Should the words you use contribute to how someone sees you? People are still discriminated against for how they speak, but does that really mean they should change? 

Accents should not matter or affect how people see you, but they do. There have been multiple studies that show how accent effect what people think. 

Giles 1970's matched guise technique: People evaluated their personal qualities base on their voices. However what they didn't know that it was the same person doing different accents, this found that people were most impressed with received pronunciation and least impressed with the Birmingham accent. 

Giles capital punishment study: found that people preferred accents which are like their own.

People also judge how smart someone is due to their accent, received pronunciation is the most common to hear when watching the news as people perceive it as sounding smart. Berstein and Labov disproved this idea though as they did a study which found that there was not a clear link between intelligence and spoken language. This study shows that even though people may be prejudice towards certain accents, how they speak actually has nothing to do with how smart they are or how well they will do compared to those who have an accent that is associated with being smart.

Gender speech

Taylor Swift was asked a question in an interview "But you only ever write songs about your ex-boyfriends" and she smartly replied "I think, frankly that's a very sexist angle to take. No one says that about Ed Sheeran. No one says that about Bruno Mars. They're all writing songs about their exes, their current girlfriend, their love life. And no one raises a red flag there".

Is sexism still alive? 

Assumptions are always being made about the differences between and men and women, how they speak differently, how they are treated or should be treated, etc... Even being addressed has sexism in it, most people may not know or acknowledge it but being called Mrs creates the idea that you are unavailable yet Miss suggest they are young, inexperienced. When speaking to people there should be more care with how you address them as assuming a gender or calling a woman Mrs when they prefer Ms is such a simple thing but it may mean more to someone else. Language shows an old attitude to gender, most forms show men to be superior to women. 
Children are given titles when they are born, whether it be Miss for a girl and Master for a boy, these titles then change. For a boy Master will change to Mr when they turn 16, on the other hand, girls get the title Miss until they are married, at that point they become Mrs. Why is it that a man's title will change when they become old enough for Mister but a woman has to wait till she is married for a change in title? The negative connotations that are related to Miss maybe due to the word being a contraction of mistress, most people associate the word mistress to be someone who is a girlfriend of a man that is married. The use of Ms means that people may be less prejudice as it does not indicate their marital status before their name. The use of Ms almost removes the idea that a man is getting power over the women when they marry, her title will not change neither will his.
These titles may suggest that men are more dominant and have more power whereas women are lower than men. A linguist called Deborah Tannen represented her ideas of men and women's language in what each gender looks for in a conversation. The six contrasts are status vs support, independence vs intimacy, advice vs understanding, information vs feelings, orders vs proposals and conflict vs compromise. According to these contracts men want the upper hand to stop others from dominating them,they are concerned with their status and want to be independent, they look for solutions to problems and use or want direct imperatives. Whereas women want confirmation and support of their ideas, seek understanding or sympathy, elaborate and talk more about feelings and don't use imperatives, they are more likely to suggest something rather than say a command.
It may matter you, it may not, but it could matter to someone else. 

Does gender play a part in our language changing?

Political correctness has improved over time as people have started to use gender neutral terms where there are gender pairs; for example, policeman is police officer and fireman is firefighters. This allows jobs to be seen more gender neutral rather than it just being a male occupation or a female occupation. Despite language changing in gender pairs it is not the same when it comes to the connotations of certain titles or marked words. Words such as 'spinster' and 'Mistress' have strong semantic derogation. The need for things to become gender neutral seem to be very strong in this generation, people tend to get offended easily and that may be a reason why language is changing.

The search for a gender neutral pronoun started in the 18th century. There have been many attempts to create the perfect gender neutral pronouns but none have agreed on. It would be a massive change to language if one if found that people agree on.

A gender neutral pronoun is a pronoun that is not associated with a particular gender, an exapmle would be 'they'. The probably with 'they' is that it is a plural pronoun, so, when it is used as a singular pronoun it is not grammatically correct. The need for a gender neutral pronoun shows how people are trying to change/improve language so that everyone is comfortable with using the language. Creating a gender neutral pronoun would allow those who do no not like to assume gender, and so write 'he/she', to have a word that doesnt look as untidy.

Zimmerman and West did a study with mixed-sex conversation and they found that men interrupted more than women, this is supportive of the stereotype that men are more dominant which suggests that there was still gender inequality.

There have been many questions on whether men and women speak diffrently, multiple linguists have tried to show the diffrences. For example, Lakoff published assumptions of womens and mens language.